Three Months into the Move
Updated: Oct 3, 2019
Welcome back to my blog space. Today, I'm going to talk about how we are getting on with our move. So I explained our move here. It's now three months down the line and we are quite settled in our new life. My two boys are in school and speaking Italian every day. They write it, read it and speak it better and better everyday. They are maintaining their grades, so I think what they have achieved in three months is amazing. Not only are they working hard in school, but they are doing it in a language other than their mother-tongue.
Every now and then though, they get tired. They complain of a sore throat or a tummy bug. I know that really all they want is to stay at home for a day and relax. Sometimes I let them.
Our new life has allowed me to quit my job and stay at home. I know a lot of mothers out there will be envious of me. I am so very grateful that I can do this. I am grateful that I can get up with my kids and take them to school, collect them and spend the afternoon with them. I can find out how their day has gone and hear about what is troubling them. All these things are important to me, so I am grateful that in my life I can take time to spend with my boys. They are both teenagers now, so I do not have much time left!
Everyday, I try to get some exercise. Being in the south of Italy, I get to experience the sun on my face almost every day. Because I'm Irish, I see this as a real blessing because the Irish winters can be harsh! So, I walk about the gorgeous park in front of our house and listen to podcasts.
I see this time in my life as a time for reflection and a time for figuring out what is coming next in my life. I'm at a crossroads and I want to take time to really know what is out there for me. How can I give back to the universe? I'm impatient to know what is my path, but I know I have to be patient and allow it to reveal itself in its own time.
Up to this point in my life, I have always been busy busy busy. I think I've done this on purpose to reassure myself that I am needed in the world. Oh look at me, I am so busy and so in demand. The truth be told? I've worn myself out. I tried to have it all, to be there for my kids, have a full time career and be a great (house) wife and all I ended up achieving was tiring myself out.
Now that we have moved away from everything and everyone familiar, I feel free to become someone different. I do not speak the language very well here in Italy. Again, this is liberating. There is no obligation for me to do anything because I can use the excuse that I do not really understand or it would be difficult for me to interact.
This has freed up my time immeasurably! I know it won't last forever, so I'm making the most of it, while I can.
Also, I realise that for some people this would be a lonely life. Leaving everyone I know and love behind. But I feel grateful everyday. I keep in touch with my family and friends, probably better than I did when I was in Dublin. This is simply because i have more time to make the effort to keep in touch. My mornings are entirely to myself and I love it. Very often, I am alone for the best part of it - and I love this too.
I've come to realise, it is important to be able to be at peace when you are alone. To be happy with the fact that you are alone and it is OK. This has been one of my learnings since moving.
I would recommend to anyone to shift out of your comfort zone and do something different. If there are whisperings in your heart that you should be doing something in your life. Then do it!
We moved country, but maybe for you it's leaving a job that makes you miserable or going back to college to pursue that career you always wanted, whatever it is be brave enough to make the change. It's scary as hell but the sense of achievement you feel when it's done gives you courage to do more. So it sets off a chain reaction in your life that could lead you to goodness knows where! I'm on my journey and I'll let you know when I get to the destination!